Caring For Aging Parents In Today’s Busy Society10 minute read

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Updated for February, 2019

Many people are so busy with day-to-day schedules that taking time off work to be with their aging parents is difficult.

Visiting time is valuable time

You can be productive at work while still giving your aging parents the care and attention you would love to give them.

Isolation, loneliness, and boredom are the most common issues among elderly people. It may be compounded by mobility issues. The inability to drive as much as they used to could compound the loneliness they feel on a daily basis. Worse still, they see their friends passing away. There are fewer opportunities to make friends and get involved in social engagements, adding to the reason why many older parents tend to stay at home.

You shouldn’t let the presence of a caregiver take your place in the lives of your aging parents.

Caring for aging parents may be a top priority for their children. Even when you employ the services of a caregiver to take care of your aging parent, there is still the possibility of lack of satisfaction, excitement, or fun. Your parents might not have any social connections with the caregiver other than cleanliness in the house. These are some of the issues you should think about when considering your parents—even if you are the busiest person in the world.

Many family members don’t live close to their elderly parents. Being alone, seniors look for ways to subside the boredom. This makes some of them turn to lottery or sweepstakes. The Federal Trade Commission reported that over half of all the adults were involved in sweepstakes in the past year. While most are run by reputable organizers, some are run by people who just want to take advantage of those who are naive. Who doesn’t like fun? Elders even love it much more than any population category. Therefore, there is an increase in the number of seniors who put their money on the line to play and eventually get tricked. Worse still, many continue to invest their money time and time again.

Seniors should be protected from these scams if their children create more time for them, irrespective of their busy schedule. Aging parents are often left in a vulnerable position and their adult children need to take actions to correct this. So, as an adult child, what can you do to protect your parents from boredom and the realistic possibility of being scammed? Here is some advice you can use to stay closer to your aging parents and ensure that they get enough care.

There is nothing holding you back from reaching out to your parents on a regular basis. Technology has even made it possible for you to see their faces even when you are not right there with them.

young woman using her cellphone at home

There is nothing holding you back from reaching out to your parents on a regular basis. Technology has even made it possible for you to see their faces even when you are not right there with them.

You might be used to calling mom or dad once a week or twice a month. Create the time if you have a busy schedule.

You can call your parents in the morning when going to work. You might even decide to call them after work hours. You should even do more if any of them has lost a significant other. Losing a significant other means there is a greater risk of depression. Your everyday call will help suppress any form of boredom. Your parents will even make receiving a call from you a part of their daily to-do list.

Girl blowing bubbles with two couples around her

You are the only one who knows how frequently you visit your parents. No matter the number of times you visit, you have to make an increase in that number. Despite the benefits of modern technology, there is no technology or amount of calls that can substitute an in-person visit.

It is not only good for you to see how your parents are faring; it is also good for them to see your face. You might have a challenge in visiting them as often as you would love as a result of distance. However, you can still schedule quality time for them using video call platforms like Skype or other mobile application that helps you connect to a person via video calls. 

Getting to know new people can turn a shy old person into a lively senior.

Cheerful and affectionate senior couple

If your aging parents live in urban or suburban areas, there are likely to be older people social gatherings and resources in the community they live. You can encourage them to join these social events.

This can help reduce the worry of your parent’s well-being. It will also provide them with the social connections they need to think less about their current situation. Getting to know new people can turn a shy old person into a lively senior.

East Asian Family go shopping

Are there concerts and the cinema you love to visit when you have the time? Are there times when you want to go shopping? Why not try doing all this with your parent? Aside from taking your parents out to these entertainment venues in the city, you can also go local. Many communities have their own local festivals which the older people don’t want to miss. 

 

Son Giving Senior Parent Advice In Home Office

Even if your company does accept this kind of gratitude, you shouldn’t do this on a regular basis. It is a good way to assure aging parents that they are still very much relevant in your hectic schedule.

Don’t let the presence of a caregiver take your place in the lives of your aging parents.

Nurse reading to pensioner

Caregivers are important if you don’t have the time to go visit your parents regularly. Beyond your own schedule, they also help aging parents with health care and chores and can keep them lively.

They can do everything you would want to do for your parents as well as offer long-term care. You shouldn’t let the presence of a caregiver take your place in the lives of your aging parents. Caregivers should be allowed to play their roles as caregivers, not children of the aging parent.

You are still in the position to play your part. Caregiving is there to help you and your parents. What’s more, they can ensure that your parents enjoy their independence by not needing to live in a nursing home or senior community for many years to come.

With the help of technology, again parents can stay connected with you even when you are very busy. Plus it opens their world wide open.

Tutor explaining task to senior

There are two reasons why this is important. One, it helps you maintain connection with them on a regular basis. Many aging parents are not used to the modern technologies that are now used in the 21st century. With the help of technology, you can stay connected with them even when you are very busy.

The second reason why you need to teach them how to use modern technology is for their own benefit. Even most young adults and teens can’t log off social media without getting bored.

It is remarkable what social media has done to this generation. You can teach them how to register on major social networks. They can meet some old friends on any of these social media platforms. More interestingly, they can watch videos online and check people’s posts. There is no limit to what they can do with modern technology. They will even be intrigued by the possibility of technology and will want to explore everything.

Everyone gets busy at some point. It is left to individuals to choose how much time they are ready to sacrifice for their aging parents. Aging parents need the attention of their adult children.

They will be happier, safer, and get all the health care they need if you take the time out of your tight work schedule to be with them. As you can see, there are many simple things you could do to create more time for your aging parents. You might not be able to become a full-time caregiving—but just do something.

Sources:

https://www.theguardian.com/society/2017/feb/05/modern-realities-make-caring-for-our-aging-parents-impossible
https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2016/03/when-youre-the-aging-parent/472290/
https://www.crosswalk.com/family/parenting/coping-with-role-reversal-more-adults-caring-for-aging-parents-11538630.html
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3427733/
https://www.swissinfo.ch/eng/society/sharing-the-burden-_how-distance-complicates-caring-for-ageing-parents/41094022